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Advocates call pornography a right of freedom of speech covered under our 1st amendment. Others say it is as addictive as cocaine and leads to the destruction of morality and family that some never recover from.
She is a mom of a 19 year old son and does not want to be identified.
“Most people think that this is a victimless addiction and it is not,” she says.
The subject is sexual addiction. Not an easy topic to talk about, especially when it’s your child. He was only 14-years-old when friends opened him up to the world of internet porn.
“Finding it was devastating to us. We had no idea, and the things that were coming up on the screen were… we’re not just talking a Playboy picture, we’re talking some horrible sexual figures that came up and some in cartoon form which was really awful to think what age they’re targeting for this,” his mother tells us.
“These are very hard core, pornographic pictures that even 8 year old kids are seeing and it’s getting into their minds,” says Internet Forensic Investigator Darin Finch.
Finch investigates Internet activity on the corporate level and sees the long-term effects this type of addiction can have.
“In my position with a couple of different companies, I’ve seen people’s careers end because they couldn’t stop browsing inappropriate things even though they know they’re being watched,” says Finch.
Sexual addiction slithers its way into people’s lives at a very early age. It enters the homes of unsuspecting parents and wraps itself around marriages that, for many, chokes them to the point of divorce. It’s hidden in the pews of our churches as those within the faith community will admit that even they are not immune.
This is a child who was being home schooled. He was raised in a Christian family, Christian values and generations of Christians with a lot of support. And that’s part of why it was so devastating,” says the young boy’s mother.
Vicki Tiede is a Christian motivational speaker who counsels countless women on this addiction. Having first hand knowledge because her ex-husband spent a lot of time and money on his addiction to pornography.
“I share my own story having walked through this, having been married to someone before who didn’t struggle with it but who just did it and saw nothing wrong with it. Those who struggle with it actually have hope because they want to be rescued from this pit,” says Tiede. “I was one of those women who was up at two and three in the morning because my husband was on the computer, and thankfully I was pointed to resources and people who could help.”
Vicki got the help she needed but this mom’s struggle was only beginning.
“We felt like we had conquered the monster. We secured our computer and learned how to watch for it. A year later, when he was 15 we discovered that the phone had a bunch of 800 numbers on it. We had blocks for 900 numbers but his cell phone had 800 numbers. When we got the bill I looked it up and started dialing the numbers and found it was telephone porn,” she says.
“I think the biggest challenge is how to explain to them how it could affect them later in life. How serious those images are and actions – we’re even talking about movies – how that is adversely affecting their views of women, their view of masculinity and sexuality and what healthy sexuality is versus what they’re seeing on tv or on the Internet,” says Finch.
An educational symposium called the naked truth is going to take place at the Rochester Assembly of God Church this Saturday.
It is designed to help equip parents, couples, leaders, and clinical counselors on how to help people who are facing these topics and more.
